--- title: "Man’s Tinder AI Makes Date With Woman, Forgets to Tell Him and Stands Her Up" description: "A man's Tinder AI bot scheduled a date with a woman at a local museum. She showed up, but the man never did, because the bot didn't tell him." date: "2024-02-14" modified: "2024-02-14" authors: - name: "Victor Tangermann" job_title: "Senior Editor" link: "https://futurism.com/authors/victor" url: "https://futurism.com/the-byte/tinder-ai-makes-date-woman-stands-her-up" categories: - "Artificial Intelligence" tags: - "ai chatbot" - "OpenAI" - "the digest" - "tinder" --- # Man’s Tinder AI Makes Date With Woman, Forgets to Tell Him and Stands Her Up ![A man's Tinder AI bot scheduled a date with a woman at a local museum. She showed up, but the man never did, because the bot didn't tell him.]() *\Image: Getty Images\* ## Lonely Hearts Instead of going through the tedium of talking to women himself, Moscow local Aleksandr Zhadan used an AI chatbot based on OpenAI's large language models to [romance over 5,000 women on Tinder]() on his behalf. Unsurprisingly, there were some dehumanizing growing pains with his dating bot. As [*Forbes* reports](), the AI program scheduled a date with a woman at the local Contemporary Multimedia Art Museum of Moscow — without actually informing Zhadan. The poor woman showed up at the venue and texted the bot to see if Zhadan was still planning to make an appearance. In an even more unfortunate turn of events, the bot reassured her that he was on his way, apologizing. "I am inside," the woman texted the bot, as translated by *Forbes*. "Are you really coming?" "Yes, I am sure I am coming," the bot responded. "Sorry for the delay. Will be there soon." ## Love Language Model In an interview last week, Zhadan [told *Gizmodo*]() that the bot even promised to bring chocolate and flowers to a date with a different woman. Unaware of the promise, Zhadan showed up empty-handed, and the woman wisely decided to move on. Despite those glaring bugs, Zhadan claims he found the love of his life, Karina Vyalshakaeva, with his Tinder bot in late 2022. Vyalshakaeva didn't know she was talking to a bot at first. After finding out about his AI-enabled ruse around six months later, the 22-year-old had questions. "I really was shocked," she told *Forbes*. "Because in that moment, I analyzed all the messages in my head! Like, when did he answer me? And when did the bot answer me? And what is the difference?" After the AI recommended that Zhadan and Vyalshakaeva get married, he eventually decided to follow its advice. The pair are planning to tie the knot in August, but have agreed not to use an AI to write their vows. **More on the bot:** *[Man Uses AI to Talk to 5000 Women on Tinder, Finds Wife]()* ## Author I've been at Futurism since 2017, where my role has evolved to encompass design, writing, and increasingly editing. I've always been fascinated by space exploration and advanced transportation, which I've leaned into by interviewing luminaries in those fields while closely following the dimensions of policy and regulation that allow next-generation projects to succeed -- or, sometimes, to fail. I'm also keenly interested in the effects of generative AI on society, policies, and democratic institutions, as well as clean energy, physics and biology, and the vagaries of tech leadership. My work for Futurism has been cited by publications including Ars Technica, Gizmodo, PC Magazine, Jalopnik, Fox News, and the New York Post. I spent my childhood living in locations including Manila, the Philippines, and Geneva, Switzerland, attended McGill University, and now live in Toronto, Canada. Before Futurism I worked at AskMen and a small photography studio. In my free time, I'm an avid gardener, foodie, and craft beer lover, as well as a maker of artisanal hot pepper sauces. I have a magnificent dog named Freida. ### Author social links [Bluesky]()