--- title: "Man Uses AI to Talk to 5,000 Women on Tinder, Finds Wife" description: "Moscow native Aleksandr Zhadan programmed OpenAI's GPT large language models to talk to well over 5,000 women on his behalf." date: "2024-02-07" modified: "2024-02-07" authors: - name: "Victor Tangermann" job_title: "Senior Editor" link: "https://futurism.com/authors/victor" url: "https://futurism.com/the-byte/man-ai-tinder-wife" categories: - "Artificial Intelligence" tags: - "chatgpt" - "dating" - "dating apps" - "OpenAI" - "the digest" --- # Man Uses AI to Talk to 5,000 Women on Tinder, Finds Wife ![Moscow native Aleksandr Zhadan programmed OpenAI's GPT large language models to talk to well over 5,000 women on his behalf.]() *\Image: Getty / Futurism\* ## AI Day Fiancé Instead of going through the tedious process of actually interacting with women, Moscow resident Aleksandr Zhadan programmed OpenAI's GPT large language models to talk to well over 5,000 women on his behalf. Zhadan went as far as to have it schedule IRL dates with matches and filter out profiles that showed women posing with alcohol, as [*Gizmodo* reports](). Lo and behold, his efforts appear to have paid off: Zhadan found his wife, Karina Vyalshakaeva, in apparent proof that his bizarre and extremely 2024 method of finding love in the age of AI can actually work — if the happy couple isn't making the whole thing up for clout, that is. ## Dating ChatGPT The pair first matched in December 2022. Unbeknownst to Vyalshakaeva, she was actually chatting with an AI for the first few months into their relationship, according to *Gizmodo*. Gradually, Zhadan took over for his AI Romeo, and the two started seeing each other in person. Per the report, Vyalshakaeva wasn't angry but "just shocked" when she found out she was talking to ChatGPT, not a human. Bafflingly, Zhadan says it wasn't even his idea to eventually get married. "At some point, the project wrote me a recommendation that maybe it’s time to propose to Karina," he told *Gizmodo*. "Karina said she wanted to go to a wedding, but ChatGPT thought she’d prefer attending her own," he added. "I took the advice, and she said yes." When *Gizmodo* asked about Zhadan's unconventional way of dating, Vyalshakaeva had an interesting answer. "He spent a lot of time personalizing these prompts so, for me, it’s okay when used in a rational way," she said. According to the pair, it's the real deal. "I think the most important thing is our real-life connection, which is great," Vyalshakaeva told *Gizmodo*. **More on ChatGPT:** *[Embattled Sheriff Caught Posting AI-Generated Headlines About How She’s Awesome]()* ## Author I've been at Futurism since 2017, where my role has evolved to encompass design, writing, and increasingly editing. I've always been fascinated by space exploration and advanced transportation, which I've leaned into by interviewing luminaries in those fields while closely following the dimensions of policy and regulation that allow next-generation projects to succeed -- or, sometimes, to fail. I'm also keenly interested in the effects of generative AI on society, policies, and democratic institutions, as well as clean energy, physics and biology, and the vagaries of tech leadership. My work for Futurism has been cited by publications including Ars Technica, Gizmodo, PC Magazine, Jalopnik, Fox News, and the New York Post. I spent my childhood living in locations including Manila, the Philippines, and Geneva, Switzerland, attended McGill University, and now live in Toronto, Canada. Before Futurism I worked at AskMen and a small photography studio. In my free time, I'm an avid gardener, foodie, and craft beer lover, as well as a maker of artisanal hot pepper sauces. I have a magnificent dog named Freida. ### Author social links [Bluesky]()