--- title: "Grimes Says Elon Musk Dodged Child Custody Papers 12 Times" description: "Drama Bomb The drama between Elon Musk and his onetime paramour, artist Claire \"Grimes\" Boucher, has taken a nasty turn. As Insider reports based on court documents the outlet obtained, the electronic music star has tried no fewer than a dozen times to serve Musk with custody papers for their three children together — to no […]" date: "2023-11-13" modified: "2023-11-13" authors: - name: "Noor Al-Sibai" job_title: "Senior Staff Writer" link: "https://futurism.com/authors/nooralsibai" url: "https://futurism.com/the-byte/grimes-elon-musk-dodged-custody" categories: - "Elon Musk" - "Future Society" - "The Industrialists" tags: - "elon musk" - "grimes" - "legal" - "the digest" --- # Grimes Says Elon Musk Dodged Child Custody Papers 12 Times ![The drama between Elon Musk and his onetime paramour, artist Claire "Grimes" Boucher, has taken a nasty turn.]() *\Image: Robyn Beck/AFP via Getty / Futurism\* ## Parental Leaving The drama between Elon Musk and his onetime paramour, artist Claire "Grimes" Boucher, has taken a nasty turn. As [*Insider* reports]() based on court documents the outlet obtained, the electronic music star has tried no fewer than a *dozen times* to serve Musk with custody papers for their three children together — to no avail. From having three [children together]() to dodging legal papers, the relationship between Grimes and Musk has [seemed pretty disordely]() for some time now. This part of the saga began back in September, when [the artist claimed]() in a since-deleted tweet that Musk was not letting her see their son X Æ A-Xii, or X for short. ## Tennis Court Things got worse (and weirder) last month, when news broke that Grimes was suing the billionaire father of 11 children to "[establish \[her\] parental relationship]()" with their three after he purportedly took them out of the state of California "[over \[her\] objection]()." That suit was apparently in response to Musk's own in September, [*Insider* reported](), in which he accused Boucher of moving to California to "circumvent" Texas family courts. It appears now that that situation has deteriorated further, with Grimes' attorneys filing supplemental evidence claiming that on 12 occasions, people she hired were unable to personally serve Musk custody papers. Those process servers, the new documents allege, tried to reach the mercurial figure at the headquarters of X-formerly-Twitter, Tesla, and even at the home of Shivon Zilis, the Neuralink executive with whom Musk had two more children. He hasn't yet responded to Boucher's legal overtures, she says. One of those people hired to serve Musk papers even tried to track him down to a horse farm he owns in Texas, *Insider* indicated. "Nope, not here," a woman who works on the premises reportedly told the process server. ## Insecure Boucher's people ultimately left the documents with Musk's security — and as California family law attorney Christopher Melcher told *Insider*, using process servers is acceptable in the case of someone as famous as Musk. "None of these security guards were going to let the process server in," Melcher told the website. "They could've come 100 times." Anyone who's ever dealt with custody battles knows [how ugly they can get](), but dodging the non-custodial parent at multiple locations and on a dozen occasions seems very much beyond the pale. **More on Musk**: [*Elon Musk Started Screaming About Zuckerberg Immediately After Signing Twitter Deal*]() ## Author At Futurism, I've often been drawn to unpacking the narratives that underlie technological, scientific and medical progress, with a special interest in areas of conflict and ambiguity that end up setting agendas and steering the fates of both elites and the hoi polloi. I'm a committed generalist, but I often find myself returning to work involving NASA and the private space sector, the effects of AI on media and society, and the mechanics of the pharmaceutical industry, with a specific focus on the spread of GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic and Wegovy. Prior to Futurism, I worked for publications ranging from Media Matters and Truthdig to Raw Story and Bustle. I'm also the author of "Myspace Scene Queens," a 2024 title in Instar Books' acclaimed "Remember the Internet" series. My work at Futurism has been cited by outlets including the New Yorker, Slate, Nieman Lab, the Verge, the MIT Technology Review, the Sunday Times, and the Daily Beast. I grew up in North Carolina, attended the University of North Carolina at Asheville, and now live in Brooklyn, New York. In my free time, I'm an avid reader and music fan; you can probably find me at a local poetry reading, concert, underground rave, or DJ set. I'm the proud parent of an ineffable orange cat named Mee-Mow. ### Author social links [Bluesky]()